Episode 468 Why You Need a Business Coach With Misty Rose Gold

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Show Summary

Rob Cairns talks to Misty Rose Gold about Business Coaches:

1. Why a business coach?

2. What can I business coach help with?

3. How to makes changes.

Show Notes

Rob Cairns and my guest, Misty Rose Gold. How are you, Misty?

I am good. How are you?

Doing good Toronto at the time of this recording is like a nice. Early summer, believe it or not, earlier. The leaves are changing, but it’s absolutely gorgeous outside, so that’s a good thing. And how’s? And. Denver.

It’s about the same, it’s. Today is going to be the coolest day of the week, so the highest is supposed to be 77. The rest of the week is supposed to be in the high 80s and we have the leaves changing so it’s a very nice Indian summer as we call them.

We told them the same here and I’m not complaining. I was talking in to my brother yesterday, who’s outside of Edmonton, AB and the rocky areas are starting to get cold. And as I said to him. Keep it and we didn’t get any rain from that hurricane that went up to US this week. So I’m thinking for today.

Yeah.

That’s awesome.

We were going to jump in and talk a little bit about business coaching, which I think is something that’s.

MHM.

Misunderstood by a lot of people. Don’t do it, but people don’t do it. They don’t see the value in it. They don’t see what they should do. How did you get into business coaching? You want tell a little bit. About your story.

Yeah. So I like to say that I’m a success coach for business owners and executives because I’m a business coach and then. Some.

Yeah.

Yeah, I cover everything human related, so it’s massively different from the traditional business codes and. How that all came to be was at 8 years old. I had a spiritual experience that then gave me that knowing that, hey, you’re here to change the world. So you know, as kids, we often I want to grow up and be a doctor. I want to grow up and blah blah blah. And that hit me at 8:00. And I was like, ohh God, this is the scariest moment of my life. OK what I’m going to change the world. OK, not sure how, but OK. So what that did is that it set me on a path of changing my world. Because it it opened my eyes to it. Even more of the dysfunction and the abuse and the toxicity that I was surrounded by on a daily basis with my. Family so. It opened my eyes and therefore I started looking for how do I do better? How do I create a better? Life. Shouldn’t I have a better family to change the world? Well, clearly I have to understand the human struggles in order to change the world. If I had a perfect life with a beautiful loving family, I wouldn’t understand that and I wouldn’t be good at what I do. So that’s where it all began.

You know.

And then I go ahead.

No, keep going.

I ended up leaving home at 15 because it was not a good environment for me and I knew I needed to thrust myself out into the world if I if I’m going. To. Change my life. I have to give myself a different environment. I just knew that if I stayed where I was, I was going to become like the. People. That I was around and I didn’t want to become. Like them and I just, I went through it. Excuse me. I went through a series of events. That made it very clear that my parents didn’t love me, and when that realization hit me, I left about a month later. So.

Stop right there for a minute. I I’m. I’m sorry to hear that. Everybody should be loved by their parents. And if if I was there and I probably shouldn’t say this sounds like it’s.

Yes.

Going to I. Ask you if I could give you. A big hug right now because that’s.

No.

That’s a hard word to say, like honest.

Thank you. I appreciate it. And I would receive that hug.

Yeah. You’re welcome. So let’s leave that in the voting typical. Person that comes to you and that needs a business coach. Like, what’s your? What’s your typical client?

So my typical client I work with Empire builders and people who are building an empire and doing it with integrity, not a bunch of bodies underneath them. So that’s number one. It’s a different thought process and sometimes people need permission to say that they are an empire builder. So there’s that too. And most of the people that I work with are very decent people. They are extremely intelligent. They’re building something and this thing is beyond them. And they need help. They know that they can’t do it alone. You cannot build an empire. With one person, it takes an army. So that’s, I mean the commonality is and then not so obvious commonality between my clients is that they have a difficulty in saying no and setting boundaries.

No, no, no that problem. Yeah, I I hear you on that one now. And I and I think I’ve heard of or I had CTO when I worked in healthcare and those who don’t know, CTO means Chief Technology Officer.

And.

We we were very close for a long time and he used to say what made his job easy and building an IT department, and one of Trump’s biggest hospitals. There’s the people that worked for. And I think sometimes people building empires want to have their hands in too much and they do not want to receive that help or they don’t want to let go or they don’t want to delegate or they don’t want to do any of that. Would you agree that’s a common issue?

Mm-hmm.

It is a common issue and I I gently patiently guide my CEO’s and business owners to setting the proper boundaries for their time, for their employees, whatever it is that their situation is and then. Being able to identify OK, this is my role. This is what I’m really good at. Now let me pass off everything that I’m not good at so that other people can take up the slack and being able to delegate and define the roles of the people that they work with or work for them. So it’s very important and we’re looking at the truth of the big picture. And then bring it down to actionable steps each day.

Yeah, I had a I had a mentor, but then my fault, though being a showed it to Paul. He’s an interesting guy. He was a a jazz musician, an award-winning jazz Pianoist earned digital marketer. There’s a story for you sometimes, like, partially because playing jazz clubs in Montreal didn’t make you a lot of money, Mr.

OK, that’s an interesting.

I mean, that’s the reality of it. And he used to one of the things he drilled into me and Paul and I are good friends to this day. I mean we we go out socially.

Hmm.

The. Talk. Is if you don’t like doing something in business, get somebody to do it for you. If you’re not good at doing something in business, get somebody’s good at doing it for you and concentrate what you’re good at and what makes you money. How do you? How do you like that philosophy?

I love it. I have my wealthy mind partner so he doesn’t have his hand in my coaching business, but anything with the wealthy mind label, I have a partner in and he handles all the technology, technology, fries my brain so.

How does it?

He doesn’t want to do what I do. He’s behind the scenes behind a computer. He doesn’t want to be the face. He doesn’t want to be the hunter gatherer the people, but that’s what I do and I love it. So we make a great partnership.

Yeah, that’s awesome with CEO’s, with time management, big problem. And I would say probably yes I.

MHM.

Enough. Business success over the years and one of the things that drives me nuts is they have a personal calendar. They have a calendar for the kids. They have a calendar for. Work and sooner or later. Something gets missed because none of these calendars over.

Yeah.

And and you’re. You’re smiling at me. But you know where? I’m not. One of the things I’ve subscribed to over the years.

MHM.

And I did this when I worked for somebody. I’ve done this even in my private life now as an agency owner in my virtual life is. 1. Showing and put everything in one spot. What do you think they should be kept separate? The same what you’re feeling.

For me, I keep two different calendars, but everything is on one calendar so. I have one calendar and it’s color coordinated.

Yep, that’s what they do.

If everything is the same color, it makes my brain think that everything is work related, so I have to color coordinate it in order to let my brain think that it’s different and it’s not all work related because if I see 15 things on my calendar for one day and it’s all work related, I’m not wanting to get up next the next morning and do it right, so I color. Coordinate based on. OK, this is not directly work related. It might be a networking event. It might be a personal thing, it might be on my To Do List, but it’s on my calendar and it’s color coordinated so that is all in one place and then I have a secondary calendar for invites where I send people invites and they send me invites and all that stays on that. Calendar. So it’s very organic. Yeah, but yeah, I think organizing our calendars as part of time management, it’s it’s part of boundaries. It’s part of being more efficient and seeing where we can get back some more time.

Do you take items off your To Do List and put them in your calendar so you actually have time to work on them? Or do you just kind of work off your To Do List?

I have A to do list for the major things, but most of my To Do List ends up on my calendar in a specific color.

Yeah, I like.

And I love I love being able to delete it from my calendar.

I I actually like that idea. I I color-coded mine so I you know, it’s funny. My mom was with her yesterday and she said well, it was. And I had mine printed out in front of me at the kitchen table the other day. And she’s like, that looks like a coloring book. I said, yeah, it is because.

Yes.

I can I can run down. It. And and and for example like this podcast record we’re doing now my code, all my podcast stuff in. Yellow. So I go in and change the color and I can say, oh, I got 2 podcasts records this week. I’ve got 5 business this week. I’ve got time book.

MHM.

To do stuff I know for me, I don’t take appointments on Mondays and Fridays. As a rule, they’re work days. Friday afternoons, everybody’s checked out. And Monday morning you’re dealing with all the emergencies from the weekend. So I don’t like to. I really odd one but. And then this whole color-coded and I can look at it real quickly and say, OK, this is where I need to be. This is what’s going on and let me. Life easy. UM.

It does.

Besides time manager, which is a big deal, I’m sure of what you do in setting boundaries. You go through a lot of esteem problems with the people you Coach, imposter syndrome, that kind of stuff. Or is that generally not an issue?

MHM.

I mean, it comes up, so here’s. I’ll just give you an outline of how my coaching works so that you understand my flow. Now when I take on a new client, we start with the main goal. What is our our main goal that we’re striving for if it’s taking the business from 1,000,000 to 3 million? Whatever the case is, what is our goal? And then looking at that picture and saying OK, let’s strive toward that. And each time we get together for a session, we talk about, OK, what’s happening now.

Thanks.

Now what is popping up in life and business that we need to deal with all the things, right, because you can’t. Do business effectively. If you’re not managing your life effectively, right? So.

Ohh Bingo and I’m just stressed out. You’re from it. But that is like power words right there. The business life and your personal life intertwined. And people need to realize that there is no such.

Yeah.

Way. Especially if you’re trying to build something and keeping those two. People say they can and my response is leave you.

Yeah.

You can’t. They cross over.

Keep calling. Sorry.

Yeah. No, you’re good. So it’s a very simple process. It’s all business related as the main goal that we’re working toward. And then in that process, inevitably because I’ve been doing this for eons, decades, all the things, right. In that process you will find. That the personal stuff pops up, the insecurities pops up the self esteem issues pop up, the boundary issues pop up, they naturally just pop up because the business.

Yeah.

And whatever is happening in the business will reflect what we need to look at on a deeper level. So I don’t start with personal development, that’s not how this works. It just naturally pops up as we work on developing the business.

No. I don’t know if you and I talked before we did this. I know we did a bit of a. Call one day and. Ohh for sure. With it I’m a big personal development person. I would have been so I’ve probably got. I stopped counting, but I’m probably in 100 block range and personal doom and stuff, and physical books like I’m a reader, so that reading is part of personal development. But I’m also that full personal development space and trust me, how do you do stuff? How do you do? And and The thing is, not all the big motivators are for everybody like.

Right.

I know for me I’m a big Tony Robbins fan. I have been for years. I’ve been a Tony’s fiance. I’ve. I think one of the most empowering thing I ever did PONY was to walk on. Fire in Chicago. Just that’s just I was scared, nervous, empowering. And Tony’s not a small guy. He’s like 6 foot 5 or 6 foot 6.

Ohh yes. Sure. Yeah, it’s a big thing.

Yeah. But but humble. There’s A and the and the. When you talk about one-on-one, he’s pretty humble and.

Hmm.

I’m dying from the come back into Toronto so I can do another event or room or I’m going state side. I haven’t decided. But he’s one guy. Like, there’s a number of people I like, but I I just find out what you end up doing is you listen the way I work is I listen to people like yourself. I listen to some of the big people I read and then I take the piece here a piece there. And I put it together and kind and kind of learn. I don’t like to learn from one person.

Yes. Well, I never tell people I’m the end all be all. I’m just a piece of their puzzle. So it again, it takes an army to build an empire. It’s not about my ego. It’s about creating the most fulfilling journey of building this empire for my people along the way. That’s what it means to me.

Yeah, yeah.

I agree. What’s the most challenging thing you find these the types of people you sit down with to help them with typical.

And being able to connect their head to their heart.

OK.

And get in touch with their emotions. So I love that challenge because I don’t like the opposite challenge. I don’t like it when somebody is super connected emotionally, but they’re shut off to their intelligence. They’re shut off to logical thinking. They’re shut off to problem solving. For me, that’s a nightmare. So I love, love, love my intelligent people. If they’re analytical, I don’t care. Bring it on. I can help you connect to your emotions. I can help you connect to your heart. Like that’s part of my jams. So yeah.

Yeah, I think. Especially males, I think males are brought up not to be emotional.

Yes.

And I’m like I’m the opposite and we were sharing a little bit before and I won’t share that because I think. We’re getting pretty in depth, but. I can be very emotional and where I get very emotional. Typically for me it’s when I’m on my own. So if I have something say bugging me or do I go for a walk every night and I do an hour to an hour and a half of of walking and I’ll find sometimes on that hour and a half if something’s bugging me. The the tears flow, the stop flow, the emotions flow because I use it. I use it to think. And I think males have this conception that they have to be and they have to be there. I’ve had friends tell me that I have the emotion to most ladies, so I I I’m not saying that to be sexist. I just understand I’m. I’m a pretty emotional guy. I listen. Music for me will tell you exactly what my mood is and what I’m listening to.

MHM.

Yeah.

For example, before the podcast, before I do a record a podcast, I’m always I’ll always listen to rock music or because it it brings my energy up. If I’m a thinking guy, I’ll go out and listen to some easy listening like the Chicago and air supply, stuff like that.

Now when I.

You know it, it all depends on the mood I miss and the music for me is all about the mood.

Yeah, well, emotions are great. I love emotions, and I support them like. A lot of my people, even the guys that I work with and I would say. About 75% of my clientele is men. Because I do create an an exceptionally safe space for men. To. Just be and work through whatever they need to work through, be it business related or personal or relational like I love creating that safe space and creating that safe space for their emotions. So you have the full package of you have the intelligence, you’ve got the logic side of your brain kicking in, but you also are in touch with your emotions, which is awesome.

And that’s and. And that’s hard to do. And sometimes you just gotta be vulnerable, misty.

Now. Yes, yes, it’s.

And that that can be hard.

It can be and that’s why it creates such a safe space with zero judgment with guys because. I want them to understand the power that comes from being vulnerable. They understand the power that comes in in from getting in touch with the truth of what it is that’s going on inside of them emotionally, because the reality is we’re all emotional.

Yes.

It’s just admitting it or not.

Yeah, I did a presentation, a number of. Years. Ago and the day I did it was on the anniversary. My dad passed away, which almost never.

Mm-hmm.

And I agreed to do it because excuse me, the. The gentleman I was doing with for his company, one of the biggest beer companies in Canada and in the world. And his father did business with my father, including what date it was.

Hmm.

And I will tell you I got on stage and he and I’ve known him. I’ve known him for. 40 years he’s my age and he said I’ve never seen you that emotion on stage, ever. Rob and I said. And you know what today is, don’t you? And he said I do. And I said there’s your answer.

MHM.

So sometimes you just gotta be yourself and let it. Go. And that’s hard, and it’s even worse when it happens in front of 1000 people and you’re sitting on that stage. Believe me, it’s worse.

Yeah, I’m. I’m good with that. I’m good with being vulnerable and just open, right? It’s what creates human connection. So I’m vulnerable from stage as well. And I that’s my goal when I speak is to connect with the audience. It’s not to make everybody convince them of how amazing I am. It’s to connect with them and. We have service right? So. So I have a a cool story to share with you. Can I share it?

Yeah, of course you may. Yeah.

So. There’s this friend of mine we reconnected after probably 8 months of not seeing each other. We know each other from the business world, so we reconnected last week and he is dealing with major, major issues in his marriage. Facing divorce, all the things and he’s processing all the different parts of decision making with this. So we talked a few times last week and then on Friday we got together. We I took him to a park where I love to just go and eat lunch and all the things, and I just wanted to take him to a place that was no distractions. Nature, all of it. And we sat there and had a conversation about all this stuff and. In that process, he’s like, I want to make sure that I’m not showing up in a way. Where he’s projecting, he was like, I don’t want to. I want to make sure that I’m not guilty of the same things that I’m accusing my wife of and the things that irritate me about her. I want to make sure I’m not doing them. So he’s showing up very authentically and honest and truth. And I so appreciated that. And I respected it and. Honored it. And we just kept talking through things. And I kept asking him questions and then presenting opposite views so that he could then make his own decisions and end this process. He’s like, OK. I need to take a break and I was like, OK, cool. So I was facing him. I was sitting on the ground facing him. And I flipped around and I sat next to him, facing the water. And as soon as I did that. He started crying.

Yes.

And I wrap my arms around him from behind. We are sitting next to each other on the ground, so you can imagine I wrapped my arms around him and I just held him. And I feel all of this stuff going on inside of him and he’s crying. And he was like, I’m scared.

Yes.

Yes.

And I said that’s OK.

Yes.

Being scared is a normal part of this process.

Yes it is.

It’s OK.

It’s life changes and it’s hard.

Yeah. And then he said I’m broken. And I said that’s OK. There. Have there have been so many moments in my life where the truth broke me.

Yeah.

But on the other side, it’s so much more brilliant and it’s so much more fulfilling and all the things. So I was able to reassure him from that place, but just hold space for him and his fear and hold space for him feeling broken.

No.

It was, it was such a beautiful moment and this guy is is very masculine. He’s but he’s he’s an open communicator so. It was nice to give him that space because he doesn’t have that space anywhere else.

Yeah, it’s it’s so hard. I know even being vulnerable like I’m. I’m pretty, I would say I’m a pretty accomplished public speaker. I’ve done speaker cages. I’ve done small stages. At 15, I was a provincial debating champ. I will tell you I almost quit. You had a fight with my coach. It’s one of my best friends to this day. And is that? I told him to screw himself and he was one of my teachers in high school and I I go into class and he’d look at me and say Mr. Karens, are you gonna talk to me, Dan? I shook my head and said go away. And this went on for months. And then I went and then I won the provincial. And he looked at me, and I can remember that’s what, 15 year old. They said to me, you know why I shoot you out? Because you’re really good at what you do and you just needed a match. And he’s in Montreal and Toronto and everytime I go into Montreal, I have dinner with him that night. But what I’ll tell you is every time I take a stage and I get an upset stomach to this day and we end up in the bathroom. Right before I take the. Stage and yeah I do.

Really.

And I’m an accomplished and I know my material and they getting upset. It doesn’t matter what I’m getting, how big, how small I get an upset stomach. And I was talking to somebody in the business world about that and he said, you know, why you do that wrong? Because you really care about what you’re delivering.

Hmm.

And you’re and you’re good at it, I mean. So we we process emotions in a different way and we all. And I know if it’s right or wrong, it’s what’s right for us and that’s what matters. I mean and too many people play on emotions and ex-wife who use.

Mm-hmm.

You say? You feel the way you do and that’s your problem, and my argument used to be you don’t get it, do you? You you understand that?

Yes, I do.

And moving on a bit. So you we’ve talked about that what other things typically go into your process to the clients struggle with at their end like I would assume these are people where money’s not quickly an issue unless they’re raising it for the business. I would, but I could be wrong. UM. What did they really struggle with, Misty?

Yeah, money isn’t usually the struggle with my clients. Now, of course, they’re struggling. Growth. They’re struggle in financial growth. Of course there is, but the initial struggle financially is not what we deal with. A lot of them deal with the struggle of being alone. And being stuck in their own thought process and it’s so refreshing for them to have an outside perspective come in that’s not emotionally attached to their outcomes.

Yeah.

And that’s me. So I give them that. Unbiased perspective, the unattached perspective, the just the refreshing perspective. And they’re like, wow, damn, This is why I got stuck. You know, a lot of them get stuck within their own thoughts and then they just don’t take action in the ways that they need to take action or want to or. Desire.

Yeah, yeah, I know. Would suggest I would suspect all of these people are what we call high achievers. I would think I would expect a lot of these people are ADHD. I would bet, which is not uncommon in high achievers.

MHM.

Hmm.

That’s interesting.

I don’t know if my people are ADHD. I know one is for sure, but the others? They don’t present as such. Now my analytical have a really hard time executing because they overanalyze everything. And I wouldn’t necessarily call that ADHD. They just have the overanalyzing symptoms of. I can’t get **** done because I think about it too much.

It’s fixed.

That you’re you’re speaking to like. You’re you’re we’re laughing. But I know that deal.

Yeah, yeah.

All too well, because I met with what was happening, and I overanalyze and I overanalyze and over.

Yeah.

And I I’ve I’ve actually been diagnosed with it, believe it or not, many, many years ago. So part of it is just finding out how to deal with it. Like I I live a normal life. You wouldn’t. You know, Sir, you the other problem too. I have this as a business owner and you probably see this in a lot of your.

So.

1. OK. Sure, definitely.

Index I get bored very easily very easily.

MHM, MHM.

So like for me, boredom is a big deal and I have to do things in my personal life, in my business world to keep that boredom away and. I know that.

Mm-hmm.

I understand that and that’s one of the the benefits of working with me is to I keep my people focused.

Yeah.

And sometimes it, you know, it changes it changes from week to week, month to month. What they need to stay focused. So it’s understanding from my point of view, it’s understanding the whole human.

Yeah.

MHM.

And sometimes we need certain things to stay focused and then, you know, next month we’re going to need different things. So that’s one of the major benefits is I keep people on track, we keep the momentum growing instead of the start, stop, start, stop, start, stop.

Yes.

We keep that train moving and the momentum is allowed to grow and grow and grow and grow and grow from there. It’s a beautiful process.

There’s a really good book out there called the Power Focus, isn’t it? And I don’t know if you’ve read.

Hmm.

It or not read it.

Mm-hmm.

It’s just an an interesting look on how they keep focused and the problem with people who struggle with focus is if you don’t want to do something, they’ll take that task and they’ll put it at the bottom of the list somewhere and they just ignore it. The whole thing, go away, right?

1.

It never does. Never does. Yeah.

No, I I actually took my To Do List this morning before this call and I’ve been in a bit of a rut the last couple weeks due to personal and family reasons and other stuff. And I actually reorganized my whole business and personal life for.

Hmm, sure.

Next 4 weeks.

Hmm.

I just sat down and said this isn’t working. What am I doing wrong and what’s the?

Right.

And that’s kind. Of sometimes you just gotta take a step back and so.

Yeah.

Yeah.

100% Now there is one thing that to keep people focused that I want to share with you and your audience.

So.

Is. We have one bullseye that we need to create. What is that one bullseye that we’re aiming for? What is that one bullseye that we’re putting all of our energy and effort into now that one bullseye will present different bullseyes that we need to focus on each week.

Yeah.

So coming into a session with me, OK, what is our goal today? But more importantly, what is the bullseye today that we need to focus all of our energy and effort on so that keeps all the distractions at Bay? It keeps people focused and it helps them to understand where they need to set the correct. Boundaries. Does this take me away from my bullseye? Does this thought process take me away from my bullseye? Does this action take me away from it or get me closer to it? So the bullseye effect is very, very, very, very important because most people are taking the shotgun approach and the shotgun approach is never going to create that. Momentum that we need to create an empire. Or build that empire. It just doesn’t work. So we need that singular focus to pull all of our energy, effort and resources into, and then that’s where the magic happens.

Yeah. What I would say to Dad is, and I like this idea. You have a big bullseye and you have a bullseye task. It’s almost. Like. Creating smaller goals to meet bigger goal and I think one of one of the problems people have, I also share with you and a bit of a project management vacuums and I’m not trying to project manage people.

Yes, yes.

Wipes not at all that doesn’t. But the similarity is what you do is you write those small labels as to get to the bigger bowls, like smaller goals to get to the bigger goal. Because some of these bigger goals are hard to obtain, so you need baby steps on the way that are actionable that are obtainable, that are quantifiable, and then have it.

Yes.

Timely and knew that last one is so key. There’s no point in putting small goals. I thought there if you want to attach a timeline to.

Yeah.

What do you think about the?

It works for a lot of people to set a timeline. Now for me, I don’t work well with timelines because I’m self motivated. I am extremely self motivated and I love what I do so it does not work for me to give me a time deadline. If you give me a time deadline, I’m going to be like leave me alone, go away. I’m not doing. It so. I work differently than most people, but most people work really well off of timelines, times, timelines, deadlines and all those type of things. I love the the use of the bullseye because when we think about goals, they’re just kind of like floating out in the ether like what are. They they’re they’re intangible to our brain.

Yes.

Now, if we think about a bullseye and put a title on that bullseye that’s tangible to our brain, we. Can see it we can. Like ohh, that makes sense. It’s not just floating out there somewhere. It’s oh, I can actually see this, right? So it works really well for focus.

You know, I I I would agree with. You it’s one of the reason. And. To draw the parallel with New Year’s resolutions, we’ve all done that stuff right now. Oh, I want my business to do this and want my business. And we all know that 99% in New Year’s Day resolutions never come to reality because they’re not good goals or say or eyes if you.

Right.

As you as you call them, they’re they’re kind of floating out there then that’s part of the problem, right. I think people need to.

Yeah.

MHM.

To be done and I I also think people need to sit down and reevaluate them as you go through the process and say is this working? Is this not working? Do we have to put other steps in the middle of it to make it happen as well?

Or is it realistic so I don’t make New Year’s resolutions, but I certainly prepare for the next year at the end of the year, I go into meditation and I feel that the year to come, I feel the energy of it. And how do I need to prepare my business and myself for the next year’s energy and whatever it is that I’m going to be facing producing and achieving in that space? So I’m looking at it. Excuse me. I’m looking at it very holistically instead of just some random. Pipe dream that I pulled out of you know what to put into my new year like that, isn’t it? Doesn’t work for me as an empire builder myself. It just does not work. So I love that time at the end of the year where I’m like, OK, what is next year? What do I need to do? What do I need to create all the things? And then I’m mentally prepared for it. And of course I don’t know everything that’s coming in the year. The air still has to unfold, but I get highlights. You know, in that meditative state, I’m able to tap into this wonderful information and wisdom and knowledge that is beyond all of us and. It’s so powerful and and I encourage anyone to tap into it regardless of your belief system. I don’t care. It’s available to everybody.

I I think meditating’s a a big value I do. I started when I my divorce four years ago, a nightly and I do it nightly. The other thing along the lines of meditation I think is a big value. Especially for somebody business, keep AJ. Like on this?

Hmm.

Paper journal if you want it it on paper, do it on paper. I tend to use an app called the day one app and wonderful things with day one is it’s on my phone, so if I’m out and about, wanna add something I can if I wanna drop it here and that’s relevant to what I’m thinking I can. It’s it. Does things like that he’s I did on paper for years.

Mm-hmm.

The journal, probably for about 30 years.

Hmm.

Well, I’ve switched from paper to an app in the last five years, but I mean, keep a journal. It helps and and the other thing I would say is don’t let anybody reach your journal. I I write my journal for me. So the rule of thumb is nobody’s allowed to read it. I don’t care who it my partner, my family. Nobody reads it.

Mm-hmm.

That’s for me.

Yeah, 100%. I used to keep a journal. I kept a journal for decades and. At this stage, for me, I just kind of like whatever pops into my head. I write it. I have a specific area on my phone where I write things down and it’s not.

And my dear.

Traditional journaling anymore, but it still gets my thought out and I I write a lot of talks. I’m a public speaker and private speaker as well, so I write a lot of talks. I write books, I write those type of things. So now that’s my form of journaling, if that makes sense.

Native expression, no matter how you’re doing it, you know it’s funny. I was like. You know. A A podcast this morning while he was working with and there were a couple of creatives on creatives and one of them was saying, you know, the problem with creative expression is we all get pigeonholed. So if you’re a. You’re a podcaster. You do podcasts and you don’t branch out. You do anything else. If you’re a YouTuber, you do youtubes and you don’t branch out and you said you should actually choose. Whatever. Fits your boat at any given time and just do it and. That’s. No. As we’re all creative to some extent, we just don’t see it.

To some extent it comes out or manifests itself differently in each person, but yes, we all have. Instead of calling us creatives, we all have creation energy inside of us.

Yes.

And for me, I grew up singing and drawing and painting and dancing and all the things. Right. So that was the creation energy expressing itself through me at that time. And now it expresses itself differently. It’s. Uh, in my emails and my text messages in my talks in my book and my podcast and my speaking and all the things that I do. I use that creation energy in those ways. I’m just channeling it differently.

That’s right. So true. So somebody, you know, look fun to go business. You have from your coaching experience and your business experience to have three quick tips that you can give somebody that they should try to look at or do besides hiring somebody like yourself.

I’ll.

Go there because I think it’s invaluable. And besides, getting a mentor as I also think you should do both, you should hire. I’ve got a couple mentors who I can pick up and call.

And.

The size 2 off that goes off the table on you right away.

Yeah.

You have.

Yes, yes. Yeah. Well, find people you can trust, regardless of what it is that you’re dealing with. Find people you can trust, which means dealing with your trust issues because we all have them. So nine people you can trust. And force yourself to believe. That something better is out there around the corner.

Yep.

And this is the only way that you’re that me. And whoever else is able to pull ourselves out of where we’re at and put ourselves in a better place, even if where we’re at is good. We still have to believe that something is better and we have to force ourselves to do it. It doesn’t come naturally to most people to just ohh, I believe something better is out there. A lot of people get stuck in their circumstances, they get stuck in what’s right in front of them and they don’t believe that anything can be different or. They don’t believe that there is better out there. They let their circumstances dictate their beliefs. So force yourself to believe that something better is out there.

So well said. Misty. Thanks for your time today. If somebody wants to look into what you do, how’s the best way to get ahold of you?

They can check me out on my website and e-mail me from there as well. It’s misty rosegold.com.

Thank you very much, Misty. You have a wonderful day and be well.

Thank you for your time. I appreciate this interview.